Female libido problems are much more common than most men believe. In fact, most women experience a drop in libido once a month. A dip in the sexual urge only becomes a problem when it persists and begins to affect an otherwise loving relationship. Some of the psychological and physical hindrances that can affect a women’s libido are...

Confidence

Confidence issues pose major hindrances to a healthy sex life. Bad self-image is the worst offender, with weight issues topping the list. These are the women who always want the lights out and won't fully undress in front of you. It can take a long time for a woman to get comfortable in her own skin, and the best thing you can do is reassure her that she is beautiful and desirable.

Stress

Stress is an inevitable thing in today’s cosmopolitan life. It is most common in women who manage both work and home. Everybody has to cope with day to day stress but it becomes alarming when it starts to affect a couple’s sex life. Give her a relaxing massage and a bit of pampering -- this will go a long way. Just watch out because if she is too stressed and tired because a great massage may put her to sleep!

Anxiety

Anxiety can be of various reasons perhaps childhood abuse, rape or some deep dwelling fear that your may have suffered as a child or as an adolosant. This can have an adverse effect on your sex life. She needs to figure out and overcome her reasons for feeling anxious, and the best thing you can do is support her. It won't be easy in the beginning, but with good communication, it can be handled and eventually resolved.

Menstrual Cycle

A women’s biological cycle is one important reason for a drop in her libido. Blame it on the hormones! One can overcome this by doing regular exercise and eating healthy food. When the body is healthy, small chemical and hormone changes have the effect they're supposed to have -- preparing the body for pregnancy -- instead of causing major disturbances to chemicals in the brain and wreaking havoc on the body and mind.

You need to be patient with her when she goes through such a phase. Don’t push things; it will make her even more stressed out and insecure. Empathize with her, talk to her and soothe her. Only when she finds herself totally comfortable with your company, will she be able to enjoy the intimacy between two of you.